Arizona mothers dealing with hate after photo of postpartum bodies goes viral


GILBERT, Ariz. (WFLA/CNN) – After posting a celebratory photo online, four women are banding together to fight back against hate on social media

Arizona mom Bethanie Garcia recently posted a photo on Instagram of herself and three other mothers who became friends online a year ago and recently met at a conference showing off their postpartum bodies.


“Is this an advertisement for why women should get tummy tucks?”⠀ ⠀ “Why aren’t there any fit women in this photo? Not every postpartum body is fat and loose.”⠀ ⠀ “Why has society made it ok to bash women who bounce back yet glorify women who can’t lose weight?”⠀ ⠀ “How about dieting?”⠀ ⠀ “Posts like this bother me. Not losing the weight is a choice.”⠀ ⠀ “I’m a mother of 4 but I’m also a smokin’ hot wife because that’s my duty. No way I’d be happy or settle to look like this.”⠀ ⠀ “Photos like this tear women apart.”⠀ ⠀ “So, you’re saying that skinny women don’t have real bodies?”⠀ ⠀ Just a small sample of the comments we’ve received over the past few days since our original post went live. It’s a shame that the point has been completely missed by some of the people that have taken time out of their day to comment. (The point being: the four of us have been friends online for a long time and finally met IRL and took a last minute photo together…of our different postpartum body types…to show that all body types are beautiful.)⠀ ⠀ If you look at this photo and your first thought is “why are there no skinny women”, you have bigger issues to deal with, my friend. You can look literally anywhere: film, TV, Instagram, magazines, video games and see skinny women. Other body types are absolutely underrepresented in media and it causes women with those body types to feel less than… to feel like they’re not good enough.⠀ ⠀ I want to encourage anyone who felt the need to leave any of the above comments to dig deeper, self-reflect, gain some perspective, learn. Your comment says WAY fucking more about you than it does about us.⠀ ⠀ Be better.

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Their message one of friendship and love with a caption, “A few of my favorite powerful women on the internet,” Bethany Garcia said.  “You can have cellulite you can have stretch marks and you can still be living a healthy lifestyle and society may tell you that that’s not beautiful but you are.” 

The responses mixed and in some cases mean. 

“The scariest things to do when checking on social media are sometimes the things that need to be heard the most,” Bethany Garcia said.  

Garcia told ABC15 she received over 2,000+ messages and comments filled with hate however under a barrage of hate the group of friends doubling down on their celebration of diversity. 

“There a few women that’ve reached out to me and said that because of my photo that they’ve started on their journey to self-love,” Garcia said.

Garcia says despite the “haters and trolls”, she and her friends are still standing tall.

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