Valentine’s Day is all about love, but this holiday is a great time to also recognize what you need to do to show someone special how much they mean to you.
This year you can reaffirm your love by showing it, doing it and saying it.
But what’s the best way to show your partner that you love them? The answer depends on their love language and the way they want to receive love.
This can determine the perfect Valentine’s Day gift for them.
“If your partner’s love language is receiving gifts, this doesn’t necessarily mean material things, it’s the thoughtfulness and effort that goes along with the gift,” love doctor Gina Midyett said.
What kind of gifts are appropriate when just starting a relationship?
-Surprise them with a bouquet of flower with a photo of the two of you and a note on why this photo is your favorite.
-Buy a journal and fill it up with inspirational quotes and notes about your memories together.
-A planner where you write a positive affirmation or a special quality you love about them at the beginning of each month.
-If you buy jewelry, attach a special meaning by simply telling them why you picked it out.
-A sexy photo shoot and give them an album or framed photo of the pictures.
-You can also just schedule a trip to the mall and have them pick something out that they like.
“Some people love receiving the gift of quality time where you give your full and undivided attention without any distractions. So put your phone away!” Dr. Midyett said.
How do you keep your marriage fresh between work, kids and general life?
-Dinner and a movie is great but doesn’t allow for much conversation time. Instead, make gourmet popcorn and home and watch your favorite romantic movie. This will allow you to talk about how the love story inspires your own.
-Create a “date jar” where you fill it up with different creative ideas of places and experiences you can share together. Take turns picking an idea out of the jar each week and go do it! (prop and demonstration)
-Make hot cocoa and have a game night at home. One of the mistakes most couples make is forgetting that they constantly need to re-get to know each other. Play a game of “all about us” trivia and have fun finding out new things about each other.
-Surprise with a road trip to a local destination or weekend getaway.
-Schedule a cooking class or dance class and create some new memories. The strongest relationships are based on constantly creating memories with each other.
“Words of affirmation are important to a lot of people. meaning hearing unsolicited words of love and affection,” Dr. Midyett said.
Sometimes just taking on the other person’s responsibilities to ease the burden is the greatest gift. This is especially true if your love language is acts of service.
“Checking off something from their to-do list will fill them with love.” Dr. Midyett said.
If your partner loves physical touch there are many things you can do to show love in this way.
“This is all through affection and intimacy,” Dr. Midyett said.
And what if you’re single? You can still celebrate the day of love even if you don’t have a partner to share it with.
Figure out what is best for you that day because it’s all about self-care and loving yourself.